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Originally Posted by $$$$$$$$
I used to get this.
The stress/pressure to perform and make it worse sometimes.
Don't try to imagine too hard on other stuff to stimulate yourself. Only get worse.
I have shared before. The problem does not lie with fapping IMO.
The problem is what you fap to.
Your brain and body become condition to that kind of stimuli.
Do you realise that when you are younger, you can fap to magazines photos of fully clothed models easily. As you watch harder porn, or too much porn your brain and body need more visual and audio stimulation.
Is kinda like drugs that you need higher/dose because your body build up resistance to get that high (orgasm is actually releasing hormones into body)
Fapping and the method of fapping is however important to the ability to last. My opinion again.
Any personally for myself, I cut down on porn videos (look at images and gifs or stories. Quite interesting also and less time consuming cos I can slowly see a few times over the day to build the appetite), did some exercises.
During sex, I simply take charge of the session and and not let my girl dominate with her drive. I realize it's a cycle that when I lose confidence I take a backseat to perform and on and on it goes.
By taking charge means, I make her do what I want as it pleasures me, when I want. Ironically ally through making my pleasure the priority and not hers, I make her more satisfied lol. (that's where alot of the stress comes from as guy; inability to satisfy a woman)
Make her as compromising as I enjoy.
It helps to build back the confidence to dominate. Now totally do not have this problem.
Just my 0.02.
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Haha I agree with you and other Bros.
Pressure to perform. Too much porn.
On domineering, it depends, but most guys like to do dominate sex.
If the girl takes control from the start, the guy may not like it.
I once had a session with a friend, ask me to quickly shower etc etc, when on bed, she just spread her legs with feet dangling in mid air......and I was like....what the hell?! My dick starts to soften.