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I remember when I was 17 years old, my 19 years old boyfriend claimed that he was in NS doing extra duties so could not book out to meet me for my birthday.
But I suddenly received a msg from my poly friend that she saw my bf near a club flirting with a girl. I got angry and told her that my bf was in NS, so she must had seen wrongly. In the end, she sms me the address and asked me to verify it myself. I spent 15 dollars plus to grab a cab and went down. Called my friend to update me where they were now. She told me they checked in to a hotel. I waited outside with her and time was slow somehow. I waited and waited....hoping everything was just a mistake. But then when I saw my bf hugging a lady's waist and walked out of the hotel, I really felt the pain.... I went up and confronted them. Bf tried to deny it , saying he was just helping her to bed to rest as she felt dizzy. But the more he tried to deny, the more loopholes in his lies... We had a big quarrel while the lady my bf was seeing ran away fast. My friend and I quarreled with him non stop until he finally admitted he went to bed with her as a fling. It took me about a year or more to get over this betrayal and moved on. Looking back, I think even if I forgive him, things would still be the same. The moment he decided to lie, he would lie even more to cover up more lies. |
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I really do appreciate all the feedback, and I made a measured decision from these inputs. I forgave her not because I was reminiscing, but because she showed remorse and I could sense that she has come clean.
We now have to overcome this ordeal and it will not be easy no doubt, thus I seek the help of anyone whose marriage has survived an ordeal like this and happy now. I need tips, pointers drawn from your personal experiences on how to manage this. Anything at all will help! |
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Yes, she may be remorseful, and you forgiving and hopefully it's all good from here on.
Don't forget though that you married someone who values excitement, attention and affection, but puts very little stock in your hard work, sacrifice and responsibility. 'I paid for her education, the car, the house, the renovation, most of our outings, and I never asked her to do a job against her wishes. She practically didn’t have to worry about anything financially.' What will not change are these values. And you are sure you can deal with it going forward? You have to be coldly objective about what you want from this relationship, what you can put in, and what you expect in return. Cos if you're going to continue to put in exactly what you have been putting in so far, you're likely to receive again what you just did. |
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Perhaps I have spoilt her too much and she didn’t realize how hard one has to work to get a comfortable life. But wise words indeed and thank you for them |
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In my opinion her remorse is over getting caught more than anything else. She pushed her luck and continued with her deceit until the evidence was irrefutable before she came clean. Of course it's just an opinion but it's based upon my own experiences regarding relationships. My guess is she has assessed the relationship and decided it is against her interests to lose you hence the display of regret and the willingness to give it another go. In other words it's all about her and nobody else. However somewhere down the road she may start feeling neglected again and the whole cycle will repeat itself. You on the other hand will go all out to make her feel even more loved and treasured this time round to try to prevent a relapse. The net result is that she has benefitted from this episode while you are losing out when it should be the other way round.
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This woman will deplete your resources and leave you when you're broke. Just wait and see. Since your response actually encourages her to perpetuate her behaviour. Basically she's getting rewarded for cheating on you. This will not end well. |
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thank god for this forum and topics like these that made me realised that marriage these days are too risky.
70% of divorces are initiated by women in singapore. add that with the protection of women's charter and you are going to be stripped off your dignity, emotional sanctity and your financials. Only the stupid get married. |
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Co-habiting is still not kosher here. Then after marriage, the girl has an open Licence to: - stop work and demand your paycheck - grow sloppy and fat - meet and screw other guys because you've "neglected" her. - be an absolute bitch and control your money, time, make you do chores and take care of the baby (who may be due to cuckolding) Smart man you! |
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Dont drag on the pain. Pointless. |
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had 11 gfs before
6 of them cheated the rest i didnt cheat on any of them. broke up due to non 3rd party reasons. |
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But she had the holier than thou attitude, telling the whole world the husband cheated. If confronted about her own actions she remarked that 1. she was only playing with this other man. 2. she will let go anytime she is discovered by the other guys wife 3. she doesn't want to break up his marriage(so she is more moral than her husband and the lass he is banging) so women can be scary. they can so critical of the man's indiscretions but when its their own, they can hide the darkest secrets and her female mates will side her and cover the matter with her in justification. neither does she care that the husband's woman whom she deem as a slut, is really a reflection of her. she doesn't care about the feelings of the woman whose husband she is screwing too. for her pic. look at my recent post in milf all I can say is poor bro. if only you knew.
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