Should I get married before 30?

[Headwindbro]

Yes get married fast and face all the shit problems about money, kids, mutual relationship, responsibilities, parenting, cheating etc fast. Think about divorce at around 40 or so. From there on you will know what life is all about and make you a better man. Dont wait too long to do all these shit because i have seen so many uncle in their 50s 60s everyday go hang flowers and find china viet ktv girlfriends all waiting to die cock standing.

[ttocaw]

Originally Posted by spicydragon

Currently in a long term relationship of 4 years - now 27. I guess the next step is marriage + kids etc. Especially with pressure from everyone you meet (all uncle + aunties!).

Just wondering if there is any advice/thoughts from people who are married or have been and are older than me cause this isn't something that I can ask my parents or someone I know who has been married etc.

1) Did you regret it or best decision? Would you have dated models and just have fun till 35+? (I previously been in 2 other relationship before)

2) How does your sex life change?

3) Is marriage more of a partnership than it is love? (that's what I've heard)

4) I constantly have a fear of committing - to just one girl? I mean is it really reality that most husbands haven't strayed before? especially there are so many attractive women.

5) girl has a great personality probably 9/10 and looks 7/10 - I always FOMO on the 10/10 girl in terms of looks and maybe 7/10 personality. Is it worth it?

6) What's it like when you are 50 and wife is 50. Do you feel the urge to chase a younger women?

7) So many celebrities like jackie chan, even bruce lee had mistresses. I wonder if this stuff is normal - for places like malaysia etc.

These questions are probably silly and shallow etc, but would be helpful in hearing fellow members experiences and thoughts.

If you need to ask. You are not ready for marriage or maybe it's just not the right one for you.Don't make the mistake of marrying just for the sake of marrying. It's like opening a can of worms.


1)I married before 30 to a woman i love. No regrets so far.

2) Sex life will change, 100% will change. The kind of passionate fuck your brains out sex will slowly taper off. It's not that you don;t love each other.It's just a different kind of love after marriage.


3) Marriage is just economics at work between 2 parties who can get along. Sharing of resources including use of body parts.

4) No one will wave a card around and say i cheated. People have to maintain their image. Most will just keep quiet. Get your fix and move on.

5) Beauty will fade. She will get fat, wrinkles,double chin. If you are talking about just wanting to fuck a girl in her prime, just pay for it. If not,go for the personality. It's easy to pay for a girl's body, you cannot pay for personality.

6) I'm not 50, i'm close to 40 and i have no urge to chase 18-20 year olds. 25-35 appeals more to me as a whole.

7) You are not jackie chan nor bruce lee. You won't have this issue.


My 2 cents.

[ibanezjem555]

Bro TS is unsure. Current squeeze is good personality but 7/10 in looks department. To me, many pretty syt usually cold in bed. Anyways what do we poor men have to offer to model (don't say good sex hor, we know 98% of women not into good sex) who can hook a Jho Low ? Even if hook, you think she will stay till the end or go for the fast divorce and 50%. That said, go for personality and as long as her face can make you erect n not turn you off. Eventually,she will grow old anyways.

If unsure, better not marry and complicate things esp when kids comes along. Married gotta think of her feelings and much much less of yours. Kids come, little or no private time, end up DIY left and right hand. If kids are your priority, then faster better. Imagine you chase a 6 year old kid when you 47.. Lao hong, boh hong..

You are not ready for marriage TS. Reflect on yourself. You can answer 70% of your questions and willing to commit, then go for it. Like bros say, it is like driving and a journey.

Enjoy !

[realTrump]

Originally Posted by waaaaaa

U plan to have kids? If yes start young if not y marry?

agree, otherwise really no point get married

Especially for guys in SG